Thursday, October 25, 2012
Posted by JJ at 8:32 AM
Thursday, October 18, 2012
So... yeah, it's been a while. And, as the title of this post indicates... I am in Korea. Again. I have decided to go back to school, and well, they generally want you to pay for that, so I've come here to save up some money. I always did plan to come back here, but life (ie: needing surgery and finding a job while waiting for said surgery) got in the way.
So, here I am. And I have to say I'm loving it this time. Oh, I enjoyed myself last time, but so far this time is blowing it out of the water. I am in Seoul, instead of a suburb, so that has made a difference. I've already made friends outside of work, which is fantastic, and I've found a gay friendly church! If I get back in the swing of blogging I'll probably post more about that at some point. But for now I thought I'd post about something that happened to me the other day that one of my new friends thought would make a good blog post.
On Sunday night, I left church and was walking down the street in Itaewan (the foreigner ghetto of Seoul.) I decided to walk to one of the venders I had seen selling cell phone cases, I needed a new one, the one I got with my phone was pretty crappy. I started walking down the street and had the distinct feeling I was being followed. I was not exactly sure what to do, so I checked behind me a few times, but couldn't pick out who it was and just keep going, figuring I was in public and if anything happened I'd scream and people would hear me.
Eventually the person following me caught up. I slowed down so he would have to keep walking, but well, he slowed down to and so I sped up. So did he. I gave up and returned to my regular pace. I could feel him looking at me, but I try to ignore him.
After about a minute of this he says "I like your look"
I say "thanks" without looking, I didn't want to be mean, but I was really not in the mood to even be flattered by this.
"Are you new to Korea?" He asks.
"Relatively" I reply, again, not looking.
"Do you want to go somewhere?"
"No thank you," this time I looked at him and stopped, gesturing for him to move on. He stopped too. I started walking again, he followed. I stopped again, he stops.
"Are you going somewhere?" He asks.
"I just want to buy a cell phone case, then go home."
"Where are you from?"
I decided to just end this now. "I'm from Canada. And I'm a lesbian"
"Wow..." He says. I waited for him to walk away.
"Wow" he says again.
There's a moments silence then he says "Have you ever tried a man?"
I sigh. "Nope. Absolutely no desire to"
"It's only women you care about?"
"That's kind of what it means to be a lesbian."
"Wow, I can't believe I'm hearing this... "
"Yup," I say, "it happens."
"You're the second lady I hear this from"
I nodded, "sorry"
"So, do you like that?"
I was confused, not sure what he was asking, "what?"
"Do you like..." he made a weird gesture "...that?"
Oh. "We'll, yeah..."
"You don't want to try a man?"
"Sorry. There's nothing you've going on down there I'm interested in"
"But a man can do everything a woman can do, and more."
"We'll then, maybe you should try that."
"A man. I hear they can do everything a woman can do. And more."
"What?!? No... A man with a man? No!"
"Well, if you don't want to try it, I guess I won't either."
At this point I was resigned to his presence and tried to change the subject, asking where he was from (Nigeria), how long he'd been here (1 1/2 years) and what he was doing (has his own business). He did not want to let this go though.
"I would love the chance to change a lesbian..."
"Not gonna happen."
"But... The chance to make a lesbian see... "
"Seriously, you go try a man and come back and tell me how you feel about how that went and we'll talk then."
"Never! But to be with a lesbian..."
At this point we reached the cell phone vender and so I stopped. "Never gonna happen." I turned to the vender and told him what I was looking for and waved goodbye to the man over my shoulder. I checked a few seconds later and he was gone, about half a block down the street. And that's what just happened to me on Sunday evening.
Posted by JJ at 9:32 AM